Well, I
never! Seriously, the last week has been an eye opener. I knew that bullying
goes on in all levels of society: celebrities with each other about their
weight or that someone purposely revealed too much leg at an event, the
Mercedes owners dissing BMW drivers, real vampires making fun of their
vegetarian counterparts and the list goes on. As long as robots don’t take over
the world, there will always be bullying (unless they start comparing chips and
the quality of steel nowadays then everything’s going to go down the drain).
What is it that gives people the need to compare and degrade fellow humans?
“… The
Stanford Prison Experiment (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stanford_prison_experiment) blindly divided a matched
group into prisoners and guards. Students became bullies within a few hours;
once they were given power and authority. Others became victims as they were
stripped of their rights and dignity. This demonstrates one aspect of bullying.
That anyone may become a bully or a victim. One common road to bullying is
being a victim. It is part of human nature to mimic behavior. People who have
themselves been victims are likely, given the chance, to become bullies. In
some way, the bully may be retrieving that part of their soul that was lost
when they were victims. Given the opportunity to bully another, people often
repeat what was done to them. Victims who eventually bully may feel powerful
and whole.”-- http://www.realpsychology.com/content/gps-parents-and-teachers/how-are-bullies-created
So it’s
basically one’s need to feel important and if there are weaker people around to
soak up the bashing, the better. Nice; what kind of world are we bringing our kids
into?! Anyway, despite knowing all this, I was rather shocked by my findings in
an author’s forum last week (no names shall be mentioned because that would be
bullying too although I really wish I could). I would never have thought that
bullying would find a foothold in the literary world. Aren’t writers supposed
to be above social levels and materialism? Or have I been living in a dream
world till now about my chosen path? (The clouds opened up, the heavenly choirs
reached the peak of their beauty and then it all crumbled in one big fat
author’s chat room!)
So here’s
the story (disclaimer of the highest sort--I DON’T SHARE THIS OPINION): Many published authors look down on self-published authors and don’t really want
their work associated with such “riff raff”. Well, well! As I’m an author with
a publisher by my side, I don’t really have to worry about these better than
thou writers. I shouldn’t feel personally affected, but I do! Who gives them
the right to decide if someone’s work is good enough without reading it first?
A writer is someone who uses the written word to express opinions, emotions and
ideas. No one should judge how he or she goes about it and no one should have
the right to draw lines in the lit world (unless Shakespeare comes back and
tries, then that’s another thing).
I’m
probably upset by this because I’m still a minnow in this world of tiger sharks
and sperm whales and have no idea how things work. But what happened to the
beauty of just writing and living in another world despite the fact that you’re
actually scribbling from the back seat of your car cum living room? How did it
become a power play of he’s better because he’s got BLAH BLAH doing his
marketing for him? Seriously, I’d rather hang out with the cool, indie,
self-published authors than the stuck ups who think their better because they’ve
got MR BIG publishing their book (and all this for 10% of sales, mind you). I’m
probably making myself super unpopular with the leviathans of the publishing
industry with this but it’s my diary and I’ll spill if I want to. Writers rule:
if there is even one person who wants to read your stuff than you’ve done it!!
Don’t let them tell you otherwise.
welcome to the real world. The heavenly choirs have certainly disintegrated into the boom, crash of clanging bins. There will always be people who will say they know best and that a certain group / thought / value is better than another. After half of century of walking this planet - my advice is to tell them all to *&^% off and be true to your own conscience. At the end of your life the only one who will rejoice or regret with your choices is you and at that point no one else's opinion matters, so why should it now.
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